If you and your spouse still think in terms of "my money" and "your money," we need to talk. This one's a little personal for us — in Episode 108 of the Marriage Puzzle podcast, we got into one of the biggest wedges we see in marriages: how couples handle their finances. Here's the thought experiment we like to use to shake people out of autopilot. The "Whose Car Is It?" Test Imagine you and your spouse split every bill proportionally based on income. You make more, you cover

This is from Episode 107, and it might be one of the most important ones we've recorded — not because we found some deep theological insight, but because our seven-year-old accidentally handed it to us at bedtime. If you've got kids, you know bedtime is basically a negotiation. Ours is a master of the "one more thing" stall tactic — she can reel you back in from the doorway with the skill of a seasoned salesperson. On this particular night, Juli was the one finishing up the r

If you caught Episode 106 of Marriage Puzzle, you know we cracked open a topic most couples whisper about but rarely talk through out loud: pornography, solo intimacy, and where the line actually sits inside a Christian marriage. This is Part 2 — three more of your questions, answered as honestly as we know how. (If you missed either episode. Listen here.) We're not writing this as experts looking down at anyone. We're writing it as two people who've had these exact conversat